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How To Know If You Are In Ego Love Or Authentic Love?
Both are different and you can actually recognize your type of life.
Love is a hot topic and an essential part of our lives. We are interested in knowing whether people’s love for us is authentic or ego-based? or if we claim that we love someone, how can we understand that our love is ‘genuine’ or fake.
Psychologists divided love into two kinds:
- Ego-based
- Authentic love
Both types have different characteristics, and we can easily know our love is ego-based or authentic.
Ego-based
Ego love is fear-based.
We can have ego love with friends, family, or parents. We believe someone can(and should) meet all our needs in this state. We project our unresolved trauma on our partner. We try to control others. Unconsciously we shame ourselves.
“Ego love is not truly selfless because we inherently attach some condition of control or possession to it.”
Your relationship is ego-based if you feel drained after interactions and fear-speaking truths due to reactions.
Ego love
- I love you based on how you make…
