I'm so glad you wrote about this I think it's really important for people to be aware of the potential red flags that could be hiding in their relationships. Here are two that I didn't see until I started trauma therapy:

1. I was always accommodating to my partner's needs and wants without considering my own. This led to me feeling taken for granted and unimportant. My therapist helped me see that my need to please others was coming from a place of deep insecurity and a fear of rejection. Once I started working on myself and setting boundaries, my relationship drastically improved.

2. I was attracted to partners who were emotionally unavailable or had substance abuse issues. When I finally faced my own baggage head-on, I realized that I was subconsciously attracted to people who couldn't give me the love and attention I needed. Once I started working on myself and my own issues, I began attracting healthier partners into my life.

If you're in a relationship that feels unhealthy or unsatisfying, it's important to take a step back and examine your own role in it. Chances are, you're playing into some of the dysfunctional patterns that are keeping the relationship stuck. But by taking responsibility for your own happiness and growth, you can break free from these patterns and create a healthier, happier relationship for yourself.